The Bereaved.ie website contains a number of bereavement leaflets address different types of grief and provide information on what to expect and how to cope.
Grief is a natural process of reaction and adjustment to loss and change. When we lose someone or something that is important to us, we grieve. There are many types of losses – loss of health, loss of employment, marital breakdown, divorce and death – and the reactions we have after a loss may be very different. Every significant loss challenges us to find ways of coping with the changes that absence brings.
Grief is our natural response to loss. Learning to live in the world without the persone who died is the work of grieving. The death of someone close often comes as a shock, even if you expected it. You can't really prepare yourself for the impact it will have on your life.
An overview of what needs to be done To help you understand where you are in the process, the diagram overleaf gives you an at-aglance overview.
We have arranged the sections in this guide in the chronological order in which arrangements are usually made and given extra notes pages at the end for your own use.
This checklist explains what needs to be done following a death. This is a trying time for all who are involved and we hope it helps you in your important work.
When friends and family are moving on
Your friends and family may have started to get back to their normal routines, or maybe they never really got out of them in the first place. Because you’re all in different emotional states, it might be that your friends and family aren’t able to support you in the way that you need or that they are experiencing their grieving differently.
Grief is our response to loss. It is the normal, natural and inevitable response to loss, and it can affect every part of our life, including our thoughts, behaviours, beliefs, feelings, physical health and our relationships with others. With the support of family and friends, many people adapt to loss well and may not experience intense and persistent feelings; however, for some, the experience of grief can be overwhelming and further support may be helpful.
Most young people will have been bereaved of someone close to them (a parent, sibling, grandparent, friend, teacher) by the time they are 16. Many will cope well with their loss, but all will need the support of those around them.
Barnardos Publications for Parents, Children and Young People
Barnardos has developed information and resource materials on bereavement: